Is Society In The United States Sexist?

This question has been asked so many times, and many people say that it is. But I want to see if it’s true and hope that by the end of this project I will be able to answer it.

First of all, I am going to show you some statistics:

  1. Over 40% of physical abuse victims are men, but more than 90% percent of shelters for victims of this violence are only for women.
  2. Men’s cancers receive 15 times less funding than women’s.
  3. 77% of homicide victims and 80% of suicide victims are men. Men make up 81% of war deaths.

Fathers don’t usually get the custody of the children, mothers do. I can understand that it is thought that the mother can be better at it, as it comes out of her, but a man can do it as good, or better.

Men also get longer prison sentences than women for the same crime, this is highly unfair and sexist. Just because they are men doesn’t mean they have to be in go jail for a longer time than women.

I am not sure that this would be a clear example of sexism in society but men die in their work more than women. If you have seen a feminist protest demanding the same jobs than men, they always ask for “normal” jobs. You never see them asking for tougher jobs like mining or constructing, Because, let’s be honest, who wants to do that? Nobody, that is why they leave the men do all the dangerous and hard work.

And if we stay  in this branch, there are more homeless men than women. There are no laws that say that women are protected from homelessness but that is exactly what happens. Because most of the homeless women have kids with them, so the social security helps them.

After all this, now it is time for women. Are we being discriminated?

Let’s start from the beginning of times, women have always been discriminated. I know this didn’t happen in the United Stated but anyway, in the bible when Eve comes out of Adam’s rib like if she was a part of him, making her  inferior.

Women get paid less (About 77 cents on a dollar that a man makes) and they usually don’t get to some job positions that men do. Like for example in the military, women are banned from getting to some high positions that men can or to fly as pilots. Also men can play american football as a profession, whether women don’t have any professional leagues

Let’s add to the list that, in all the history of the United States, there has never been a female president.

On another hand, women are often objectified and treated like objects in ads, movies, TV series; basically everywhere.
Then there are stereotypes, like this ones:

  1. Little girls like pink and dolls and boys like blue or red and sports or cars.
  2. Women are fragile and sensitive and men are tough and can’t feel emotions.
  3. Men shouldn’t be more “delicate” professions like fashion designers and women can’t be more “rough” professions like builders.
  4. Liking fashion makes men “un-manly”.
  5. Women stay home and take care of the children.

My conclusion is that both women and men are victims of sexism. We all are. We are objects of sexism since we are little and, even tho there have been advances, there still is a lot of work to do. The day that men and women are treated with justice is the day that we will be able to say that we live in an advanced society.

Poem – Voodoo Doll

Her skin is white cloth,

and she´s all sewn apart

and she has many colored pins

sticking out of her heart.

She has a beautiful set

of hypno-disk eyes,

the ones that she uses

to hypnotize guys.

She has many different zombies

who are deeply in her trance,

she even has a zombie

who was originally from France.

But she knows she has a curse on her

a curse she cannot win.

For if someone gets too close to her

the pins stick farther in.

http://homepage.eircom.net/~sebulbac/burton/images/voodoo/voodoo_girl_4.gif

From “The Melancholic Death Of Oyster Boy” by Tim Burton

Tips To Feel Better

Do you ever have one of those moments where you just want to die? Where you can’t take anything anymore?

I know I do. So here I am leaving you some of the things I do to release that stress/sadness.

  • Cry_ Some people may say that crying only makes things worse but I find it really relaxing. Letting go of your emotions helps you recompose. I really recommend it.
  • Shout_ Just shout. It’s the best anti-stress.
  • Tell someone you trust_Hearing a family member or a close friend telling you how everything is going to be okay really calms me. It makes me feel loved and secure.
  • Excercise_ Even tho I am super lazy, I find excersise really calming and it lets me be myself for some time.
  • Write_ Write. Everything that comes to your mind. That you think is important, or that isn’t. What’s bothering you, or what makes you happy. But just write.
  • Find a strategie_ In order for you to find inner peace you must find something, someone or somewhere that makes you happy. And when you are sad or stressing out just go to your happy place.

 

Sad

I want to cry. Now.

I feel like my life is over, I can barely breathe. I pray that I will be taken right now because I don’t now if I can do it anymore. Once again, my anxiety is taking over me and I don’t like it. I hate it!

Today my mom told me that I was her biggest remorse. I don’t know if she meant it but it sure hurt. So much. I don’t even know why it has affected me so much, I guess it is because I have always had her on a pedestal and hearing her say things like that… it just killed me.

But it is not only because of that. I constantly have a pressure in my chest, not making me able to breathe. I want to die, please.

 

Social Anxiety

I think that I have social anxiety.

I have always been very shy, but this past year everything went even worse. In school there was this girl who some really good friend go against me, and then she would also insult me by a social media called ask.fm. She trashed all my confidence and self-esteem.

Since the I have suffered two or three panic attacks, specially over this summer. It went to a point were I was afraid of people, I had never been so afraid of something in my whole life. It was terrible.

Since then I have re-gained some confidence but I’m still really anxious and afraid. I need help and I feel so alone. Sometimes I just feel like the world would be so much better without me. I want to tell someone but I don’t have anyone who I feel like I can trust. So I am posting this anonymously to see if someone understands me.